Being more loving requires time, energy, and intentionality but my selfish nature wants to be comfortable and to take the path of least resistance. So naturally there is a struggle to invest such precious commodities into people who may not reciprocate our love. It is much easier to love those who love us back, to love those who are part of our group, but Jesus says that anybody can do that. As children of God we have received God’s grace and forgiveness, and with that comes a duty to do more than what comes natural to us.
“…for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. 46 For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? 47 And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? 48 Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.” Matt 5:45b-48
Just as God’s “common grace” benefits all of mankind (just and unjust) and draws unbelievers to repentance, so we are to love everyone in this world in order to accomplish a greater, eternal purpose. We are to follow God’s example of loving in such a way that those outside of our “group” will benefit from our love and be drawn to the Savior.
So how do we become effective vessels of God’s grace and love? I think we start by breaking down walls within the local churches.
- Create real Cross-Connections with those outside of our cliques and our factions.
- Help newer and less connected folks to connect with the church’s vision and purpose, and more importantly with the Savior–not just bring them into our clique or group.
- Build a Kingdom-Building Culture—ambassadors for Christ.
- Develop a Culture of Service—equip the saints to do the work of the ministry.
As we learn to love a wider array of people we will become more proficient at loving Christ because the Church is His Body. Of course there will always be some folks with whom we will have deeper relationships than others, but the breadth of our relationships will be broader.